You Think About Your Partner All the Time

Thinking about your partner all the time may become unhealthy. This will become unhealthy when thinking about your partner conflicts with your daily activities or the way you normally function. It always important to remember you come before your partner, caring for yourself enables you to care for them.

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You're only going out with the person
because you don't want to be alone

Going out with someone based on your insecurity of being alone is very unhealthy. It is unhealthy not only for you, but also unhealthy for the person you are with. Your fear of being alone will not be fulfilled by your partner. This is unfair to both you and the person you are with. Going out with someone should be based on common interest and the ability to be compatible, not because of insecurities you may have.

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One person usually decides what you do as a couple

What's important here is how both people feel about this arrangement. Some people maybe fine with this but others my be unhappy or feel like their ideas do not matter in the relationship. Sharing decisions on what to do and where to go can be challenging and fun. It gives you an opportunity to learn more about your partner's interest and qualities and learn more about yourself as well.

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You have different interests in music,
sports and other activities

Having different interests is very healthy for a relationship. When you have diverse interests you are able to learn unique things about one another. Have a variety of interests enable both people in the relationship to become more open minded to others' preferences. This does not mean that having many common interests is negative, this just allows you to explore activities that you may not have tried before.

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You see each other before, during,
and after school everyday

At this stage of your life, you should have other activities besides being with your girlfriend/boyfriend. Seeing each other this often is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should keep in mind that the activities after school such as clubs, sports or a job, will help to better your future while your partner may not always be a part of your future.

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You still keep in touch with your old boy/girlfriend
and your partner doesn't know it

Keeping in touch with your old boyfriend/girlfriend is perfectly ok. You should never dedicate all your time and energy to one person. Having an old boyfriend/girlfriend still there as a friend is a great thing! However, you should feel comfortable telling your partner, but not discussing it is not a crime. You are entitled to your personal feelings and business and everything little thing does not have to be discussed in the relationship with your partner.

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Your partner only hits you once in a while
and always apologizes afterwards

This is very unhealthy. There is absolutely no excuse for your partner to abuse you. Whether there is an apology afterward or not, hitting you is not appropriate or healthy in a relationship. Healthy relationships are free from physical, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse. If you are being hit by your partner or no of someone who is please call 703-838-4911 for further advice immediately."

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You are engaging in sexual activity with your partner

Whether you are mature enough to completely understand the risk of engaging in sexual activity may determine whether this is a healthy relationship or not. Engaging in sexual activity can put you at risk for pregnancy, a sexually-transmitted disease, or HIV/AIDS. These are risks that will affect the way you live your entire life. If you're able to talk to your partner about the risks of pregnancy, getting tested for STD's, protecting yourselves, and what to do if any of these situations occurred, then you may be mature enough to engage in sexual activity. However, the healthiest relationship with your partner may be choosing abstinence, or not engaging in any sexual activity at all. This decision then eliminates all possible risks.

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You share different opinions which
usually leads to intense discussions

Having different opinions is ok in a healthy relationship. However, if differing opinions lead to arguments or any type of abuse, this is no longer a healthy relationship. When you have a difference of opinion, although you may never reach an agreement, you should still respect each other's point of view. When arguing or abuse occurs, that line is crossed and respect for one another's opinions is no longer there. A healthy relationship must show respect for one another and your views.

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Your partner is affectionate with you
in private but not around their friends

In a healthy relationship, you both need to respect each others' boundaries. Having a discussion about your boundaries for showing affection in private and in public will help you both become more comfortable about them. By discussing boundaries, each partner will be able to understand the other's limits and respect them in a healthy relationship. If you cannot respect each other's boundaries, then you may be in an unhealthy relationship.

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